"Also, what if this child is a child of society? Do you need to raise and teach your child from a social perspective? What if this child is a child of the world? Do you need to raise and educate your child from a world perspective?"
From Ning Youguang's point of view, Xia Qi's thinking and cognition are really too common.
It's common, but it doesn't mean it's completely normal and reasonable.
For example, in society, we will find that regardless of whether they are parents with high or low cognitive levels, when educating their children, many of them will think that "the child is mine, and you must listen to me!"
What does it mean for a child to obey his parents in everything?
It means - "I controlled you very successfully."
But the fact is that many parents who think like this hope that their children can surpass themselves in the future.
Based on such a vision.
Parents with high-level cognition have this kind of thinking, and their error-tolerance rate in educating their children will be much lower.
Because based on their own knowledge and vision, they give their children a lot of correct guidance so that they can reach a good level in the future.
However, many parents with low-level cognition, such as factory workers or migrant workers with low knowledge levels, feel that "the child is mine and must listen to me" when educating their children, which is very useful.
Problem!
In fact, from the perspective of social development laws, no matter what the cognitive level of the parents is.
With a high probability, the next generation of each generation will be smarter than the previous generation, and the children of each generation will be better than their parents.
Under such social development rules, if parents still expect their children to listen to them, they will eventually teach a copy of themselves.
What can they copy?
It all depends on the quality of the parents themselves.
If you want your children to live like you in the future, education and guidance will not be a problem.
The problem is that parents are afraid that if they educate their children in a copying way, they will eventually grow up.
But they said with disgust, "That's not right, child, you are disobedient! We didn't let you look like this in the first place! How could you look like this?!"
But they forget that the child looks like this just because he is too obedient.
Let’s get back to Xia Qi’s question——
"With 'I', there is pain." Ning Youguang said to Xia Qi, "How big your 'I' is, how big your pain is, how narrow the upper and lower limits of your life are, and how wide you can accept the world.
It’s so small, so think about how you should make a decision.”
Xia Qi remained silent.
Ning Youguang continued, "I know how painful it is to cut off 'I', but as many 'I's as you can cut off, you will gain much happiness and freedom. A single thought can solve many of your problems."
Problems and pain.”
"It's too difficult." At the other end of the video, Xia Qi rubbed her face heavily, "I will think about it carefully."
"Of course." Ning Youguang chuckled, "Getting rid of 'self-grasping' is not something you can do right away. It is a long process of cultivating your mind. But once you are willing to change your mind, the new world will
The door will open for you."
——"So, give time a little time, let the past pass, let the beginning begin."
"Okay." Although Xia Qi felt heavy-hearted, she still completely believed in Ning Youguang and believed that the method she gave will definitely work. "I have recorded what you just said. I will listen carefully and ponder it carefully later. Take action again.”1314