I am a person who would rather be broken than broken. Before Xu Minghui’s true feelings were exposed to me, I could numb myself and comfort myself, thinking that although he was a bit talkative, he was actually good and truly loved me and my children.
This family, but now that I know his true inner thoughts, my heart is completely cold.
I have always thought that although I behave carelessly, in the eyes of the people I love, I should be a cute little woman, because I am lively, diligent, and sincerely love Xu Minghui, our daughter, and this little family.
, isn’t this enough to make Xu Minghui love me?
But I never expected that in Xu Minghui's eyes, I was just a vulgar woman who spoke loudly, dressed tastelessly, and made him lose face in front of his friends. Even though I lived a careful life, I treated him after get off work. The closer pursuit of his whereabouts became a flaw and a reason for him to betray the family and me. All these made me feel chills from the inside out. As the saying goes, what is tolerable and intolerable?
I admit that I set up a trap to let Xu Minghui get in and let him pour out all his true thoughts, but the purpose of doing this was also to know what image I was in his heart. Now that I know who I am in his heart,
If it is so unbearable, then no matter how this cracked marriage is repaired, no matter how much effort I make in the future, it may not be worth mentioning in his eyes, so there is no need for me to put myself so low.
I had to compromise and continue to live this life with him, so I finally decided to divorce.
After making this decision, I called Xu Minghui to tell him. His attitude was not as exciting as the day I left, but he was also very determined. He did not agree to divorce.
In the days that followed, our husband and wife began a life of tug-of-war. In order to persuade me to change my mind, Xu Minghui used all the forces at his disposal. His old boss, Director Xu, personally called me, and Sister Wang even visited me personally.
To persuade me to give Xu Minghui another chance, Xu Minghui’s family, including his parents, also called me and asked me to forgive him once.
My father-in-law and mother-in-law didn’t understand what the problem was between us. They always thought that we were just an ordinary couple arguing and getting angry. I couldn’t accuse Xu Minghui of sleeping with another woman in front of two old people, but I caught him raping him in front of them.
After all, they are older, and I cannot bear the responsibility if they cannot bear the shock after hearing this kind of news, so in the face of their earnest persuasion, I can only temporarily hesitate.
Later one night, my brother-in-law Mingqi and his wife came to my residence in person to persuade me to reconcile with Xu Minghui. That night, we chatted for a long time, and I told them everything I needed to say, although
Ming Qi and his wife both persuaded me to give Xu Minghui another chance, but when they heard about the mistakes their eldest brother had made, they became silent. Later they tried to persuade me a few more words, but seeing how determined I was, they finally had no choice but to give Xu Minghui another chance.
Returned in vain.
Seeing that everyone's efforts to persuade me were ineffective, Xu Minghui began to adopt a procrastination strategy. He began to travel frequently on business and could not always be contacted on the phone. He thought that this procrastination strategy could make me change my mind, but unfortunately, he
My wishful thinking has failed. Once I, Wei Haichao, make a decision, it cannot be easily changed by others.
Seeing that Xu Minghui was hiding and disappearing, I became furious and prepared to go directly to the court to file for divorce.
Now that I have made this decision, of course I need to consult a lawyer first. The lawyer I am looking for is a friend I met through work before, her name is Xu Xinnuo.
Xinnuo and I are similar in age and have similar experience. We were just ordinary working partners at first, but as we gradually got in touch, we gradually became good friends in life. I know that she sometimes takes over divorce disputes.
lawsuit, so I approached her for consultation.
We met in a quiet little coffee shop. Xinnuo is a soft and beautiful woman with beautiful features and fair skin. Her manners are very elegant. When she met me that day, she wore a light red suit and looked very elegant and elegant.
Seeing me sitting there sullenly drinking coffee, looking very miserable, Xu Xinnuo smiled at me and asked me softly: "Have you considered everything? Have you really decided to divorce Xu Minghui?"
I nodded towards her and replied affirmatively: "It's decided, I will divorce this marriage."
Xu Xinnuo nodded slightly, looked at me thoughtfully for a moment, and then said softly: "Actually, many couples I met were very determined when they first came to me for consultation about divorce, but after mediation, they finally gave up their initial opinions.
After all, it is not easy to manage a marriage. Although it is easy to break it, if you want to build such a castle again, who would have expected that it would be better than before? "
I understand what Xu Xinnuo means. She just wants me to think about it calmly and weigh the pros and cons. After all, I am not young anymore. I am afraid it will not be easy to find someone after divorce. In this society,
After all, women are still weak.
However, one thing she doesn’t know is that I, Wei Haichao, have always been a person who accepts the soft and not the hard and does not believe in evil. Once I decide something, I can’t get it back. The more people persuade me, the more divorce is harmful to a woman.
The consequences are so heavy, and the life of a divorced woman is so difficult. It is even said that the remarriage partners of divorced women are basically all wrong people, so women should not take the initiative to initiate divorce. The less I believe this evil!
I, Wei Haichao, just want to finalize this divorce, and after the divorce, my life will be even more exciting than before the divorce!
So at this moment, I smiled faintly at Xu Xinnuo and replied to her in a positive tone: "Don't worry, I have thought of these consequences. However, since I have decided to divorce, I have the courage to bear all the consequences of this, so
You don’t have to worry about me on this point. I just want to consult with you today. If Xu Minghui insists on refusing to agree on a divorce with me, how can I divorce this marriage through legal means?"
Xu Xinnuo saw that I was resolute, so she smiled helplessly and stopped trying to persuade me. Then she explained to me in detail the things to note when filing for divorce in court, such as how to write a civil complaint, as well as child custody issues and property division.
Question; we also need to explain the reasons for the divorce.
Write down these specific circumstances clearly, and finally submit the complaint to the grassroots court in the district where we are located, and go through the filing procedures in the filing tribunal. At the same time, you must also submit some of your own documents, and even some supporting documents on property, to wait for the filing of the case.
After the court review, you can go home and wait for notification.
Xu Xinnuo told me: "You must be mentally prepared. The court will mediate first after filing the case. If Xu Minghui also agrees to divorce, you will agree to divorce. If he does not agree and you still insist on divorce, then you can only wait."
The court has made a decision. The court may decide that you should divorce, or it may decide that you should not divorce, depending on the specific circumstances. If you decide not to divorce, you can file for divorce again six months later."
I nodded, and then asked Xu Xinnuo: "Then if Xu Minghui insists on not agreeing to divorce, what measures can I take to increase the possibility of the court ruling on divorce?"
Xu Xinnuo smiled slightly and said to me: "Of course it would be better if there is some evidence of his cheating. If he is the fault party, it will increase the possibility of the court ruling."
I secretly thought to myself, where can I find the evidence of Xu Minghui's cheating? I was so angry when I caught him that day that I didn't have time to take pictures or record, and now I don't have any evidence in my hand.
Seeing how worried I was sitting there, Xu Xinnuo smiled at me and comforted me: "You don't have to think so much first. We will discuss the specific things slowly. I will tell you which aspects should be paid attention to and strengthened."
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Of course I felt relieved to have her as a lawyer sitting here, so I pretended to smile casually, toasted her with a coffee cup instead of a wine glass, and said to her with a smile: "Thank you in advance, Barrister Xu!"
Xu Xinnuo smiled coquettishly at me: "Why are you so busy thanking me? Let's wait until the lawsuit is won."
Under Xu Minghui's policy of delaying and hiding, I was forced to go to court to file for divorce.
As I expected, during the court mediation process, Xu Minghui initially expressed his firm disapproval of the divorce. However, because of my firm attitude and Xu Xinuo's planning, the information I submitted was relatively complete, so in the end Xu Minghui had no choice but to do so.
I had no choice but to accept divorce mediation from the court.
Because when I talked with my daughter before, she insisted on living with her father. This is what makes me most helpless. Because the child lives with her father, so in terms of property division, although Xu Minghui made the mistake of cheating in marriage first, he should be the first to live with her father.
He would get less property, but since he would have to raise his daughter in the future, he did not make too many demands for child support, so I gave him the hundreds of thousands of savings we had during our marriage. As for the two houses, each of us had one.
Xu Minghui lived in the welfare house allocated by his work unit. We had already bought the house in full and the property rights were in our hands. I lived in the commercial house that we bought later.
In this way, I finally divorced this marriage.
My friends around me all thought I was too cheap with Xu Minghui. Originally, he cheated on me first, but I gave him all my savings.
Regarding this point, I think about it this way. After all, if I don’t look at the monk’s face and look at the Buddha’s face, I don’t have to pity Xu Minghui because he has done something sorry for me, but I have to consider my daughter’s living environment in the future and leave the savings to
The father and mother married him in order to make their daughter Tiao Tiao's life more comfortable.
As for why Tiaotiao refused to follow me, this is what makes me sad. Tiaotiao, a child, grew up in front of his grandparents. It can be said that he was spoiled by the two elders. Although the two elders of the Xu family have serious problems,
I was very unhappy when I first learned that I was giving birth to a daughter, but later I saw how cute and lively Tiao Tiao was, and I felt that the child was born in the wrong fetus and was destined to be a boy, so I raised her as a boy.
This child has developed a pampered character that is not afraid of anything, so that after he returned to me, this child was very difficult to tame.