In fact, giving others a step up is one of the principles that we should follow in our dealings with others. We all have self-esteem. Once we hurt someone else's self-esteem, the other person will always be resentful and will look for opportunities to retaliate at any time. Therefore,
In interpersonal interactions, we should try our best to avoid hurting other people's self-esteem. In some small things that have nothing to do with gains and losses, we should try to give the other person a step, save some face for others, and thus leave more room for ourselves, so as not to
You will suffer unnecessary harm to yourself because of trivial matters.
Therefore, we should try our best to deal with various problems we encounter with a happy mood. Even if we are angry once, the best way is to try to endure it in our heart, do not explode, and use reason to suppress passion. Only in this way can big problems be reduced to trivial matters.
none.
Therefore, if you give people a step up, you will often win friendship and gain trust. "Cai Gen Tan" says: Leave one step on the narrow path and walk with others; reduce three points on the strong flavor, which will make people addicted. This is the ultimate bliss method that involves the world.
In fact, leaving room for others is actually leaving room for yourself. Don't make things difficult for others, and don't make things difficult for yourself. This is the beauty of giving in and leaving room, and it is also a good way to deal with the world.
When I heard what she said, I first had a concept in my mind, that is, I simply didn’t believe what she said. At the same time, I immediately had a way to deal with it. So I immediately
, said to her softly: "Dongmei, I know. In fact, you are not a bad girl. The things you do are just because of the pressure of life. Dongmei, I really need your help now.
So I hope you can promise me this. I can't promise you anything, but I can tell you one thing, no matter how you need me to help you in the future, as long as I can do it, I will try my best to help you.
You did it. Dongmei, it’s not just a day or two that we’ve been together. As the saying goes, a couple’s love will last a day. To be honest, I really treat you as my little sister.
Dongmei, please promise me, okay?"
Just as I expected, after a moment of silence on the phone, I heard her ask: "Who is that person?"
I should have been happy in my heart, or at least relieved, but at this moment I couldn't help but cursed her in my heart: bitch! She is such a fucking bitch!
I tried my best to restrain the anger in my heart, but I still said to her softly: "He is a very high-level leader. But don't worry, he doesn't look old, and he is very graceful. To be honest, Dong
Mei, I am also thinking about you. As long as you follow him, with your intelligence and beauty, your future will definitely be very good. In fact, I can’t help you much. At most, I can help you study for graduate school, or
He will give you a small amount of money, but he will be different."
She asked me: "Big leader? Isn't he worried about the repercussions?"
I replied: "I want you to be a nanny for someone else. Just like you used to be a nanny for me. Do you understand? Aren't you going to graduate school soon? You can study during the day and do housework for him after class."
Isn’t this the same as before?”
Then I heard her mutter on the phone: "What's the future of being a nanny?"
I felt even more uncomfortable, but I still said to her patiently: "Dongmei, don't you still have to study for three years? You can work after you graduate from graduate school, and I will arrange a very good job for you.
A good job shouldn't be difficult, right? Of course, I assure you that these are not realistic. The key is that you must do it well. But you have to remember: you don't have a boyfriend now, and you have never been a nanny for me.
, you are just my junior sister. We met when I was the director of the school. That’s all. This is very important. Do you understand? You should know that any man is very taboo about such things. Also
That is, that leader has a high position, and you must pay attention to many things at all times in the future. For example, don’t listen to things you shouldn’t hear, and never speak to things you shouldn’t speak out, etc. Dongmei, you are very smart.
Girl, I believe you will do well. It only takes two or three years. From now on, everything will be over after you graduate from graduate school, and then you can start a new life with a higher starting point. Do you think this is okay?
Okay?"
She said: "Teacher Feng, please let me think carefully before speaking. Okay?"
I couldn't help but started to curse in my heart: What the hell are you still thinking?! You've obviously agreed, so why the hell are you pretending?!
I said: "Okay. Think about it carefully. Dongmei, a lady named Lin may come to you tomorrow and the day after tomorrow. She will talk to you in detail. Thank you, Dongmei. To be honest, I
I really hate to leave you, but I can't help it. It's impossible for us to be together for a long time, right? You and I both know this. But we can be good friends in the future, don't you think?"
Her voice was very low, "Yeah."
My tone was still gentle, "Dongmei, so be it. I'm still in Beijing and can't meet you for a detailed discussion. You can talk about it after you meet Ms. Lin. But I still have to tell you one more thing,
You have to keep this kind of thing a secret, for yourself and your mother, and for your better life in the future, you have to do this. Do you understand?"
She still said one word like that, "Yeah."
I suddenly felt a sense of emptiness in my heart, "Okay. That's it. Goodbye."
So I hung up the phone when she whispered "Yeah" again. The room was so quiet, so quiet that I felt like a bug in a box. At this moment, I was so lonely, confused, and...
There is anger towards oneself.
I was really angry with myself because I realized just now that I was so shameless.
Thinking of having to wait until dinner time in the evening to meet Wu Shuang to discuss things, I immediately felt a burst of fatigue coming over me. Xia Lan and I were too intense last night, and we had another one at noon today.
, my body really can’t bear it.
At this moment, sitting on the sofa, I suddenly felt that sleep was coming like a rushing river. It is not an exaggeration to use this idiom to describe my exhaustion at this moment, because when I went from the sofa to the bed, I only felt sleep.
The distance of two steps made it almost impossible for me to reach it, and the moment my body just reached the bed, I immediately fell into sleep. The darkness and the disappearance of consciousness arrived almost at the same time.
I was dreaming when the ringtone of my cell phone woke me up. I was having a sad and tangled dream. I dreamed that I was getting married and a grand wedding was being held in the church. The whole wedding process was just like in a movie or TV.
That way.
First, outside the church, I found that there were many people around me but I didn’t recognize anyone. The church was made of stone, gray and white in color, with a higher left side and a tower-shaped roof with a red cross standing on it.
The building on the right is relatively long, with several tall windows embedded side by side. The tops of the windows are petal-shaped. There are also two white pigeons squatting on the roof. The walls and fences are decorated with green stripes, and the fence has
The arc-shaped lamp has long tassels made of iron beads hanging around the lamp. The appearance of the entire church has an elegant and pure feeling.
Immediately, I entered the church surrounded by a group of people. The space inside was large and high, filled with rows of long red-painted chairs. There was an aisle in the middle of the chairs, and the aisle was paved with red
There was a carpet; and in the middle of the aisle stood a tall circle of semi-oval garlands.
There is a large blue picture on the front of the church. I can't see clearly what the picture is, but I think it is very beautiful. There are curtains, white doves and pendant lights hanging downward from the ceiling in front.
What attracted me the most was the sound of the piano. I found that in such an empty hall, someone was playing the piano quietly, and the sound was so clear, loud, beautiful and quiet.
At this time, I don’t know who is saying: “It’s coming, it’s coming!”
Immediately, someone pulled me and ran towards the outside of the church. When I arrived outside the church, I saw several brand-new wedding cars driving towards me.
I saw the bride wearing a white wedding dress get out of the car, and a woman used a bright red gauze umbrella to lift it over the bride's head. The bride was wearing a long white wedding dress with a very big skirt, and there were two
The child was holding the tail of her skirt for her.
But I couldn't see clearly who my bride was, I just felt that she was very beautiful.
The bride came and took my arm. At this moment, I felt that she was my bride, and it seemed that I didn’t need to think about who she was. The bride and I entered the church together, and in front of us were white gauze curtains and bright red curtains.
Spherical balls and elegant chandeliers all give people a sense of criss-crossing. We are walking towards the red carpet on the aisle, and we pass through beautiful garlands decorated with green leaves, flowers and grape bunches. The stage directly in front of us
The table was covered with soft pink silk, and there were countless beautiful and elegant flowers on both sides of the table.
There is a painting on the wall directly opposite us. It is a light blue background painting: the main tone of light blue gives people a sense of tranquility and happiness. In the middle of the painting, there are steps, and at the end of the steps
It is a round door with a cloud floating on it. This is the door of heaven! It means that Jesus leads everyone to the door of happiness, right? The two sides of the painting are dotted with twinkling stars and white lotus flowers.
I saw the piano, a white, beautiful piano, exactly like the piano I saw at Xia Lan's house. The piano was played by a girl, but I could only see her back: white
Long skirt, straight hair, from her back you can still see her graceful arms that sometimes rise and sometimes fall. Each of her movements will release a string of wonderful music, and the music will jingle into the spring water.
, and it seems like a gurgling river... (To be continued)