I immediately understood the process, and I thought it was indeed similar to what I had analyzed. For a man like Lin Yi, if he really falls in love with a woman, no matter how beautiful or noble the woman is, it is
It is difficult to resist his kind of attack. One is because he is too rich, and the other is that his attack method is very direct. The combination of the two will allow him to be simple and effective.
After all, Lin Yi adopts a business approach to his feelings: he can do anything for a certain purpose.
Such a man is very scary for a woman, and at the same time very lucky. If this man is too sentimental, then the woman he pursues will be terrifying. But Lin Yi is not that kind of man, so for Xia Lan
It's a kind of luck to me.
I nodded, "It seems that he really likes you. Is what I said before correct?"
She came to look at me, her face flushed, "Feng Xiao, he and I have never had that kind of relationship. Do you believe it?"
I was stunned for a moment, but then I understood the meaning of her words: she was telling me that she, Xia Lan, was not that kind of casual woman.
When I understood the true meaning of her words, I immediately said: "Xia Lan, I know that you are not the kind of woman who is too casual. We are together because you have that feeling for me, but I
The situation is different, because I am afraid of marriage, and I don’t want to cause any harm to you. The women who have married me, or even prepared to get married later, have not ended well. Also, my emotions are too confusing and self-control.
My strength is very low, so you were right to leave me, and now that you have him, you are even more lucky."
She sighed quietly, "I hope so."
I immediately felt: She still has a fear of her future emotional life. This is actually a manifestation of marriage phobia.
Marriage phobia is a very representative modern social psychological disease. In terms of its social psychological level, modern social life is ever-changing, there are many temptations, marriage life is also complex, and phenomena such as extramarital affairs are common. In addition, social public opinion has a negative impact on marriage life.
The negative publicity of the marriage has also caused some young people of the right age to hesitate to move forward with marriage. This has created a huge gap between the romantic and perfect love and the happy and dedicated marriage in people's dreams, and anxiety and fear are inevitable.
Marriage is a major life event, and the psychological impact caused by the change of roles makes some people escape and fear is understandable. At this point, men and women also have different worries due to physiological factors. Women are more worried.
Most of them come from the spiritual level, such as worrying about family life after marriage, including handling and coordinating relationships with other family members, not being able to do housework, etc.; women are becoming more and more financially independent, and marriage is no longer the only part of life. Men's anxiety about marriage is
More comes from doubts about the ability to bear the burden of the family. The main consideration is one's own responsibilities in the family, which actually amplifies the pressure of life. At the same time, men are more eager for freedom and are afraid that life will constrain themselves. In the final analysis, it is for themselves and each other.
no confidence.
And Xia Lan is a woman who has suffered emotional setbacks, so she has no confidence in herself, and is so full of fear about her future marriage. In the final analysis, she still has no confidence in herself emotionally.
A woman's confidence in marriage cannot be equated with the success of her career. Suspicious women are even less confident about their emotional issues. I think Xia Lan is exactly such a woman.
I said: "Actually, marriage is just a gamble for a woman. If the gamble is right, she will grow old together. If the gamble is wrong, she can only accept her fate. Of course, management during the marriage is also very important. But I still think that the foundation of a stable marriage is genuine
Feelings. Now it seems that Lin Yi really likes you. From a gambling perspective, your chances of winning are very high. So I think you should not hesitate anymore."
But she immediately came to ask me: "Why is marriage just a gamble for women? Isn't it the same for you men?"
I said: "Xia Lan, you have to admit that no matter how old a man is, it is easier for a man to find a suitable partner than a woman. This is the difference."
She nodded and said, "That's true."
I think our conversation should end today, because Lin Yi’s previous instruction forced me to control the time I spent with Xia Lan. But now, it seems that what we should talk about has been finished. Now it seems that Xia Lan just left
I just wanted to chat with me casually, nothing special.
So I said: "Xia Lan, you should go back and rest early. Otherwise, he will be worried."
But she looked at me, with the familiar amorous look in her eyes, "What is he worried about?"
I suddenly coughed violently in embarrassment, "Xia Lan, please stop joking like this between us, okay? After all, he is my former father-in-law. Haha! I should still call you aunt from now on."
Her face turned red again, "You...hehe! Then just scream now."
I immediately felt that we really couldn't continue talking, otherwise it would become more and more serious. So I hurriedly said: "Xia Lan, that's it. I wish you happiness."
But she immediately said: "No, wait. I have something very important to ask you."
I was stunned immediately, "Oh? What's the matter?"
She looked at me, but didn't speak immediately. She took out her cigarette case again and took out a cigarette. When she was about to light it, I couldn't help but call her, "Xia Lan..."
She stopped lighting her cigarette and immediately looked at me in shock, "What's wrong?"
I said, "When did you learn to smoke? Smoking is bad for your health, and...is he disgusted with your smoking?"
She looked at me in astonishment again, "There are so many women who smoke. Moreover, every time I smoke, he doesn't say anything. Sometimes he even comes to light it for me like a gentleman."
I shook my head, "Xia Lan, that's because he has just started dating you. Men and women who have just entered a relationship are the same. They tend to ignore or tolerate each other's shortcomings. In fact, there is a deep-rooted concept in men's hearts that
I just feel that women who smoke are not ladies. Although this concept is not correct, it exists in men's hearts. This is actually a traditional concept that cannot be changed. So, I hope
Whether it is from the perspective of your own health or the long-term future of you and him, you should quit the habit of smoking. You should know that the relationship between a man and a woman will become dull after a while, and it is difficult to maintain the relationship between two people.
There is only true love. But true love is also very fragile. Maybe a small thing or a bad habit will slowly weaken true love. Think about it, when you kiss a man, the man suddenly feels
How would you feel if there was a strange smell in your lips? Xia Lan, my words may be a bit unpleasant, but what I say is the truth, and it is all for your own good."
She was startled for a moment, and immediately crumpled the pack of cigarettes into a ball, and then threw it into the ashtray. I felt embarrassed for a moment, "Are you angry?"
She smiled bitterly and said, "Feng Xiao, you are really annoying and hateful sometimes. But you are quite sincere. Forget it, I'm not angry with you anymore. You know that I used to
I don’t smoke, so I can’t say I’m addicted to cigarettes. I smoke because it’s fun, and when I’m alone, I think smoking feels really good. Since you just said that, I think you’re right.
, then I’ll just stop smoking from now on.”
Only then did I realize that we had taken the topic too far, so I hurriedly said: "Xia Lan, didn't you say you had something important to tell me? Please tell me quickly."
She then subconsciously reached out to the cigarette case that had been crumpled into a ball by her, but then she realized her gaffe. She smiled awkwardly at me, "Now I finally understand why so many people smoke.
, this thing can make people feel less empty in their hands. Feng Xiao, let me ask you something: Did Lin Yi have another woman not long ago? And that woman also gave birth to a child for him?
"
I was stunned for a moment and found this matter difficult to answer, so I asked her tentatively: "Did he tell you?"
She shook her head.
I immediately felt embarrassed and a little surprised, "Then how did you know?"
In fact, this is my answer. And I believe she can hear it.
Of course she could hear it. After all, she is a relatively smart woman, not to mention that such a question does not require much IQ. She said: "It seems true?" (To be continued)