"Okay, that's it. I'll talk to him. By the way, the opera house project has almost been implemented. Several companies from other provinces came to prepare for delisting, but they all gave up. Now our Jiangnan Group has basically decided
After Sun Lulu’s incident happened, it was indeed a big loss to your company. I can’t do without Shangguan. You must spend more energy on the project in the future. Shangguan, you must also try your best to spare time.
Go and teach Feng Xiao a lot, okay?"
Shangguanqin said with a smile: "Let's learn from each other."
I hurriedly said: "I have to learn more from you."
Lin Yi suddenly laughed next to him, "Okay. You two should stop being humble to each other. Just learn from each other's strengths and communicate more. Shangguan, go and do that thing right away. Try to ask him if it's okay tonight."
Shangguan Qin smiled and went out. Lin Yi then said to me: "You should go back too, I know you are very busy recently. By the way, there is something I want to tell you. Recently I have re-study the modern history of our country.
, I saw an article a few days ago, which introduced Pan Hannian. Do you know Pan Hannian, right?"
"I've heard of it, but I don't know the specifics. He seems to be a senior cadre of the Communist Party, right?" I replied, secretly surprised: Why are you talking about this person?
He nodded and said: "Yes, Pan Hannian is one of the originators of the Communist Party's intelligence work. It can be said that his intelligence work was indispensable for the Communist Party's victory in the world. He is a legendary figure, but he was framed by some people after liberation.
He was a traitor and was never rehabilitated until his death. His original name did not even appear on the tombstone after his death. This was a great tragedy. So he himself once said with emotion: There is no one who engages in intelligence work.
It will end well. Looking at it now, what he said makes sense. A person engaged in intelligence work will not only come into contact with the enemy's secrets, but also master some fatal secrets of his own people.
This is his sadness. Feng Xiao, do you understand what I mean?"
I nodded.
"You don't need a heavy hammer to play the drum. You are a smart man and you should understand what I mean. Okay, go and do your work," he said.
After leaving his office, I kept thinking about what he just said. When I was in his office, I didn't understand it, but now, I suddenly understood - he was reminding me not to touch other people's privacy.
I suddenly felt ashamed. Thinking of what happened between me, Zhang Shiyu, and her parents, especially what Principal Zhang said to me that day, I immediately understood the meaning of Lin Yi's words. Maybe he
It is not only reminding me, but more probably it is warning me: it is very dangerous to get involved in other people's privacy, especially the privacy of those powerful people, which cannot be touched at all.
.Imagine, someone with Pan Hannian’s status would have difficulty escaping from being framed, let alone your little Feng Xiao?
Many people are interested in other people's privacy. According to Freud, people's desire to pry into other people's privacy comes from childhood, from curiosity about their own life experience and origins. For a person who was suddenly born from the mother's womb, it is very difficult for people to pry into other people's privacy.
For a child who knows nothing about everything, he will have many questions about this strange world. In other words, for a child, everything in the world is a question and privacy, and among these questions and privacy, what makes him the most
What puzzles me is probably the old and new question "Where did I come from?" And parents have different answers to this question. Some parents said: "You came out of your mother's calf."
"Some said, "You were picked up." Some parents simply refused to answer, or even scolded them. It is these various answers and the mysterious atmosphere that strengthened the children's curiosity and sense of privacy about this question. On the contrary,
Prompting children to further explore and inquire. As a result, children encounter privacy for the first time - privacy about their own origins and life experience, hidden in the hearts of their parents. From this perspective, a person's curiosity about privacy begins here
, it started from curiosity about a strange world, and it started from feeling strange about one's own origins.
The secret of a child's birth becomes the child's first absolute privacy. With repeated accumulation, more and more questions and privacy form a kind of pressure, which leads to the formation of children's curiosity and desire to explore privacy. We even
It can be said that human beings are born with curiosity and are born with curiosity about privacy. It is natural and human nature to like to pry into privacy.
If we follow the thinking of children, we will find that the number one privacy question raised by children involving themselves and their parents is by no means a casual and simple curiosity. There may be great principles of life in it. For example,
If we really want to answer the child's question: "How is a child born?" we must involve women's genitals, marriage, sex, family relationships, life and survival, etc.
A series about the important questions of life.
If a child understands and masters these issues, then he will also master basic life and survival knowledge, and he will be able to better adapt to society and survive better. Therefore, it is somewhat embarrassing for adults that children will grasp this.
Questions about privacy are constantly being asked. Because, we can say without exaggeration that a complete and comprehensive solution to the question "How are children born?" will solve most of the questions about life. It is precisely
Because this issue is so important to the child's future survival, children will persist in exploring this important issue and privacy.
The fundamental motivation for children to explore privacy is to improve their understanding and understanding of the interpersonal environment in which they live, and to improve their ability to survive and adapt to the world.
By peeking into their parents' emotional privacy, children can not only understand the world and others, but also understand themselves and even shape themselves.
When a child is just born, he is in a state of self-righteous narcissistic arrogance, feeling that he is omnipotent. Slowly, he will discover that his omnipotence is actually an illusion, and his survival is completely dependent on
Parents are truly omnipotent, and they are the parents who support them. In this way, children turn to humbly imitate and identify with their parents, and want to become "omnipotent" adults like their parents. Parents are not only role models for children, but also
It is a mirror for children. Through their parents, they can see themselves and learn how to be adults. At this time, children's questions about "how are children born?" are further expanded and become questions about the love between men and women, and sex.
, emotions and relationships, and a series of private issues. By deciphering these private issues, children can understand the truth about their parents’ inner world in order to find the exact basis for their imitation and identification with their parents.
This kind of peeking into the privacy of parents' emotional world is divided into two steps. The first step is to idealize parents, draw the power of growth from this idealized image of parents, and shape one's own personality according to this idealization.
The more positive part. At this stage, children will pay special attention to the positive elements and advantages of their parents, but turn a blind eye to the negative aspects and shortcomings of their parents. Immediately afterwards, there is the second stage of exploring the privacy of their parents.
The stage is a stage that focuses on the flaws and negative aspects of parents. Through "de-idealization", the idealized image of parents in the heart is eliminated and the image of parents is made more realistic. Through snooping and understanding of parents' positive and negative emotional privacy, children
If you can correctly and objectively understand the essence of human nature, emotion and love, you can complete the shaping of your own personality, and you can be healthier and adapt to complex social and emotional life smoothly. It can be said that peeking into the emotional world of parents can provide
Children's psychological growth provides nourishment, is the only way for children to mature, and is a shortcut for children to understand themselves and the world.
Children snooping on their parents' privacy is a normal desire in the process of growing up. If a person deciphers all the emotional privacy of his parents in childhood, theoretically, when the child grows up, he will not be overly interested in other people's privacy. Only
Only those whose childhood snooping desires were not sufficiently satisfied will crazily snoop into other people's privacy. In other words, adults' snooping on privacy is a relic of children's needs, the result of unsatisfied childhood snooping desires, and a sign of poor personality.
A sign of maturity.
Not all people are interested in snooping into the privacy of other people or celebrities. People seem to be more interested in the negative aspects or negative privacy of others. For example, the writer Sanmao's love story was fabricated, the singer Li Ming committed suicide by taking medicine for love, and Diana
Private rumors such as the princess having an affair with the captain of the guard spread the fastest. People were angry about the flaws of these people, but they also talked about it and spread it around happily. They would even say disdainfully: "What?
Celebrity? Bah! Worthless!"
This scene cannot help but remind us of the second stage of children snooping into their parents' privacy. This stage is a stage that focuses on the flaws and negative aspects of their parents. Through "de-idealization", the idealized image of their parents is eliminated in their hearts.
Make the image of parents more realistic. But the parents have been replaced by celebrities.
It can be said that people's snooping on the negative privacy of celebrities is a continuation of snooping on the negative privacy of their parents. By understanding the negative privacy of celebrities, people can remove the ideal and perfect aura of celebrities and see a real reality with flaws and advantages.
people.
From this we can understand that celebrities, like their parents, are also human beings, not gods. They also have flaws of one kind or another. Like their parents, they sometimes become vulnerable and even lose control or become mentally unstable.
There are brief moments of collapse; they also have emotions, they are also trapped by love, and they are bowed down by a bucket of rice; they also have times when poverty overwhelms them, they also have moments when they are pessimistic and disappointed, and even want to give up on life; great heroes or great men,
There is also a dark and dishonorable side that is despicable and dirty.
Celebrities are the same as our parents. In some aspects they resemble a saint and heavenly being, while in other aspects they resemble a villain and the devil. By peeking into the privacy of celebrities, we take the stars, saints, and gods that symbolize our parents from
The altar wrapped in privacy was pulled down and brought down to the same level as us ordinary people. This made us come to a seemingly cruel but very real conclusion. Those people we used to be superior to were actually the same as us at heart.
By snooping into privacy, we have to face the disillusionment of myths and ideals of our parents, other people, and celebrities. Initially, this disillusionment of ideals will make us very painful, because the perfection of our parents or celebrities was, after all, our life.
Pillar. But after the pain, we will wake up, so that when we face our parents and celebrities, we will no longer feel too inferior, and we will take back the hopes and expectations we have invested in our parents and celebrities, and give them back to ourselves.
Take on the pressure of your own life and control your own destiny by yourself, not your parents and celebrities.
It can be said that a large part of our self-confidence is born from the denial of parents and celebrities, and the accompanying self-affirmation. (To be continued)