Shuiqing sighed first, then explained in a somewhat nonchalant manner.
"Xiao Wu, thank you for your concern. But you are still young and have no children. You cannot understand my feelings as a mother. For the sake of my children, I have to do this..."
But these words made Hong Yanwu laugh.
Because in his previous life, his only unconditional emotional contribution was probably to the daughter he once thought was his own flesh and blood. Although he had no experience in love, he had experience in being a father. How could he not understand Shui Qing?
Strictly speaking, he has been particularly considerate of his parents throughout his life and has known how to cherish family ties. He also has a special fondness for children, which may be attributable to this factor.
"Sister, I understand your insistence, and I agree with your point of view. Children should go to daycare. It's good to learn to draw, sing, and get to know one, two, three, and four. It can broaden the children's horizons, and it can also
Learn how to get along with peers. As a child, you have learned to abide by the rules and adapt to collective life in the nursery, so that you can better integrate into the school and social environment in the future. But I think your approach is a bit too rough and too eager.
I didn’t consider the feelings of children and the elderly. I ruined a good thing."
"First of all, since the child is already scared, you can't force him to send him to the nursery. Think about it from another perspective, from the first day, you just throw the child here and leave. A strange environment, strange people,
How can a three-year-old child adapt to being guarded by family adults every day and always in a familiar environment? Fear is inevitable. Especially in the west courtyard, there are no children as old as Xiaoying, and she is a middle-schooler.
I understand that the feeling of loneliness is also certain.”
"On the other hand, it would be better if you guide them step by step. For example, first take the child to the nursery to play with the slides and swivel chairs, and then look at the indoor activities and living environment of the children in the nursery. Wait until she understands what is going on here.
, you let Xiaoying participate in the children's games. As long as Xiaoying is familiar with other children and gets to know her aunt, there will be no fear or strangeness at all. If you leave at that time, most of the children will
You won’t be so resistant.”
Upon hearing this, Shui Qing immediately felt enlightened.
Yes, Hong Yanwu's words were on point. But she didn't think of these problems. Isn't it because she was too careless and too anxious? It's true that bystanders know better.
She no longer regarded Hong Yanwu as a layman, and couldn't help but ask, "Xiao Wu, what do you think I should do next? What can I do now to make my children like the nursery?"
Hong Yanwu had already thought about it and suggested it unhurriedly.
"Now that the child's bad feelings have formed, we can only slowly ease and adjust. In my opinion, you should actually shorten the time your child spends in the nursery now. Because when I go to deliver meals to the nursery,
I asked the people at the nursery. They said that Xiaoying was quite obedient in the morning, but started to get uncontrollable at noon. This was caused by the child's lack of patience and your absence for too long. Besides, you are busy at work, almost every day.
Will the child be happy to be the last one to pick her up? Maybe, she may regard entering the nursery as your punishment for her. Therefore, it is simply unrealistic for you to expect her to become better all at once. It is better to do it in the future.
Stay for a long time, kid..."
Shui Qing admitted that Hong Yanwu's suggestion made sense, but reality didn't allow it. She couldn't help interrupting with a look of embarrassment on her face.
"How can that be done? I have to go to work and pick up the child at noon. Then I..."
Unexpectedly, Hong Yanwu laughed again. It turned out that he had already made a plan.
"Don't worry, since I brought it up, I will definitely think of a solution for you. Don't I get off work in the morning shift? I will get off work as soon as lunch time is over. How about this, Quanzi and I will pick up the child for you. Wouldn't it be settled if I sent it back to your home? You won't be worried, right?"
But although this was a good thing, Shui Qing still didn't look open-minded at all. Instead, he lowered his head hesitantly.
"Xiao Wu, I thank you for being so considerate for me. But I brought my children to live outside just because... because my mother and I..."
"You're angry, aren't you?"
Hong Yanwu pierced the window paper and took over the conversation. "Sister, this is actually the second point I wanted to tell you just now, but I didn't have time to say it. You really don't understand the old man's heart."
"Look, you went to school, left for three years, and came back once a week. For such a long time, Aunt Shui took Xiaoying alone. Even when she went out to sell something every day, she pushed a small bamboo cart to carry it.
She goes with the child. She is alone and has to eat, drink, and take care of the whole family every day. She also has to take care of the child. Do you think it’s hard or not?”
"Who is she doing for? It's not for you that she would be so kind to a child who is not related by blood. And she is kind-hearted. After taking care of the child for a long time, she has feelings for the child itself. Don't listen to what she says.
Natao, how can I complain? In fact, she loves the child more than anyone else. To put it bluntly, she is a little used to it. She never goes hungry or freezes Xiaoying. Instead, she takes care of the child neatly. The neighbors can hear the child's laughter every day. What can she do?
It’s not easy to get to this point.”
"So, when you take the child away for the first time, she feels empty and cannot accept it emotionally. Can you still blame her? Like you told me just now, I can't understand your heart as a mother.
My heart. It’s the same thing. Since you are Xiaoying’s mother and Aunt Shui is your mother, you should be able to understand her. Anyway, I feel that as a parent, every era has its own difficulties, and there is no one in the world.
Children make parents really worry-free."
Shui Qing blushed. She was indeed touched by Hong Yanwu's words. Her expression was shameful and regretful, but her attitude was still a little hesitant.
Of course Hong Yanwu knew why. He would prescribe the right medicine and continue to persuade.
"Sister, go home and take the initiative to be gentle with Aunt Shui. Don't feel embarrassed. There is nothing to be embarrassed about with your own mother. I know you are right. It is a bit aggrieved to do this. But it is difficult for an upright official to deal with household affairs. Family matters
Is it necessary to distinguish between right and wrong? Harmony is the most important thing, and not hurting feelings is the most important thing."
"In addition, I think people often have a common problem, that is, the fragrance is far away and the smell is close. People are often tolerant to strangers, but they are harsh to those who care about them the most. We will always hurt the people who love us unconsciously, but once this happens
, we ourselves will also be hurt. I dare to say that not only you are feeling uncomfortable, but Aunt Shui is also feeling very uncomfortable right now."
"Because you don't know. Ever since you moved out with Xiaoying, Aunt Shui always likes to talk to me and Quanzi, obviously wanting to find out about you two. Neither of us dared to say anything bad. She has circles under her eyes.
When I see red, I sigh and walk away, which makes everyone feel sad when they see it."
"One more thing, do you know that there is an aunt in our cafeteria who is forty or fifty years old and named Luo? She is about the same height as Aunt Shui. A few days ago, I and she delivered meals to the children in the nursery. Xiaoying saw her back and
Wearing an apron, you ran over and hugged you, called "Grandma", and never let go. You must have had your children talking about "Grandma" in front of you. Don't you know what adults and children think? Why do you think this is so troublesome?
Are you coming? Go back, you will be relaxed when you go back, and it will be a good thing for everyone."
When the words came to this point, Shui Qing couldn't help but feel moved. She was completely moved.
Of course, in addition to being grateful to Hong Yanwu, she also sincerely admired him. Because she never expected that Hong Yanwu was so insightful in family ethics and taught her a lesson.
This doesn't look like the brash boy in his childhood who made the neighbors frown. It seems that how to behave in society cannot be learned by reading a few books.
"Xiao Wu, thank you. You know more about people and the world than I do. I'm very ashamed."
"Oh, don't say that. It's not a conversation. It's just a few words."
"Really, I would like to thank you not only for your reminder today, but also for the adoption certificate you issued for me at the police station. If you hadn't helped me get this, I would have taken it out when Xiaoying went to the daycare.
If the unit fails, what gossip will be spread?"
"Sister, it's all a piece of cake. Don't take it to heart. But when it comes to this, I really have to tell you something extra. From now on, when you go to the cafeteria to eat, be sure not to fill up the public soup. Drink it.
Ask me for soup, and I'll go to the kitchen and prepare it for you."
Shui Qing couldn't help but become curious again. "Why?"
Unexpectedly, Hong Yanwu's answer was extremely shocking.
"Hey, you don't know. Last week, I saw a man standing there making soup for more than a minute, holding a spoon and fishing for a long time. I thought to myself, what's going on? Hey
, just when I was about to go over and ask, I saw him actually fish out a pair of glasses from the soup bucket. Well, I fell in when I took the spoon to make soup. Later, Quanzi and I paid attention to it. I may scare you if I tell you,
As of today, we have found three similar incidents. Three incidents! Glasses, pens, bunches of keys! Let’s change it! That soup bucket is not a soup bucket, it is simply a cornucopia. You think you can still drink it?
Well?..."
Shui Qing's face turned pale. She regretted asking more about this matter.