Chapter 714: Growing up is the sadness of constant separation
Qin Bing thought for a long time before he started writing.
He deleted and changed the title several times, and finally left the following sentence: "This is a movie that all children should watch."
"At first, I learned about this movie because my old friend Xu Ding finally got the rare opportunity to be the protagonist of a movie.
After watching the movie, there were many things I couldn't say.
We often see news on the Internet about parents complaining about grandparents over-indulging their children. The separation of generations makes the elderly often overly tolerant and doting on their children.
In their time, it was important to produce filial sons under the stick, but when it comes to their grandchildren, they seem to have lost their memory.
Of course I don't agree with the education method of filial sons being born under the stick, but I also don't agree with excessive pampering.
How to educate children? In fact, it is a problem faced by all parents, so I won’t mention it here.
However, today I would like to recommend a movie "Heaven Replies" because the way the grandfathers educate their children in this movie is worthy of learning from the majority of grandfathers and parents.
Although the theme of the film is to teach children how to face death.
But many details are worth thinking about and worth learning.
In fact, no child is born a naughty child, naughty children are mostly caused by the day after tomorrow.
At the beginning of the film, the grandfather takes his grandson to fly a kite. There is a detail that touched me very much. After flying the kite, the grandson wants to ride a tricycle to take the grandpa with him. I can't help but raise a question here.
If it were your child who made such a request, as parents or grandparents, how would you respond?
I believe that the first reaction of most parents or grandparents is to refuse!
It's too dangerous, you can't ride it!
But how did the grandfather in the movie respond?
He agreed to let the child play rock-paper-scissors with himself, and if he won, he would fulfill the child's request.
I am not advocating here that children should take grandpa on the streets on tricycles. After all, the times in the movie were different from now.
However, this kind of courage to let children try things that interest them is worth promoting. Maybe we can change the way and let the children feel in a safe place whether it is hard for grandpa to ride a tricycle.
Our current parents, grandparents, etc., try their best to avoid letting their children try anything that involves risks. I think this is also an over-protection.
In the film, the way the grandfather and his grandson get along when they return home is also worth thinking about.
Grandpa took his children to deliver a letter and encountered a power outage in the elevator.
Grandpa asked his grandson, what should he do if the recipient of the letter lives on the twelfth floor?
The child's first answer was, "I'm afraid of the difficulty, let's go home."
It is human nature to be afraid of difficulties.
But grandpa taught his children here to be brave enough to take responsibility. In fact, climbing the 12th floor was obviously a more difficult thing for grandpa.
But he still encouraged the children to speak out on their own, to climb up the stairs to deliver the letter, and to deliver the letter. At the same time, he also had the courage to take responsibility. When encountering difficulties, do not run away, especially some things that seem difficult, but in fact, if you do it, you can overcome it.
, I believe that this kind of experience will be of great benefit to children.
The last step is to teach children how to face death.
Children often have difficulty understanding the meaning of death.
At the beginning of the movie, the grandfather and grandson were flying a kite. When the grandfather suddenly felt uncomfortable and sat there to rest, he knew that he was not going to die soon.
He is not afraid of leaving, but what he is afraid of is that his good grandson Chenchen, who is young and dependent on him, cannot face this farewell.
Therefore, in the days that followed, grandpa taught Chenchen how to face death, intentionally or unintentionally. Even the return of his mother did not come suddenly.
The first time he faced death was the deceased recipient. Although he was no longer alive, grandpa did not give up sending the letter to him. He did not say that the person was dead and could not receive the letter. Forget it or anything like that.
Negative language, but optimistically told Chenchen that even if a person dies, he can still receive the letter, and the kite can take the letter to him in heaven. Invisibly, Chenchen is full of fantasies about the world after death, and fantasizes about a paradise there.
, imagining that people do not disappear after death. This is my grandfather subtly telling him that there is nothing terrible after death, and there is heaven there.
The second time he faced death was when his grandfather was sick and pretended to be dead in the hospital. He wanted to see Chenchen's reaction. Chenchen was really frightened and couldn't cry. He couldn't let go of his grandfather, and he was still full of fear of death, so he got angry.
left. When he returned home, he hugged his grandfather and said he would not let him die. This was a true expression of his feelings, and it was also because Chenchen could not accept the death of his beloved relative.
The third time he faced death was the unexpected death of Chenchen's old friend Guinea Pig. Because they were very close friends, Chenchen couldn't help crying. However, in the end he calmed down and went to talk to his friends.
When old friends were buried, there was a small kite next to the grave, because he believed that the kite could allow him to communicate with the guinea pigs in heaven. Under the influence of his grandfather, he was able to digest the sadness caused by death by himself. This is
Chenchen’s growth.
Facing death for the fourth time, that is, the death of his dearest grandpa, his real old friend. Chenchen did not cry to death, nor was he unable to control himself with sadness, but finally celebrated his grandpa calmly.
On a birthday, birthday candles are lit one by one. Grandpa is lying there peacefully in the candlelight. Chenchen is calm and strong. This is in sharp contrast to the Chenchen where grandpa faked his death and howled and couldn't accept it. This is why
The purpose of arranging the previous plot where grandpa faked his death. Grandpa can now feel at ease.
At the end, that lonely winter, he used the method taught by his grandfather and sent the letter to his grandfather via a kite. This was Chenchen’s true relief from death, and this was what his grandfather had hoped that Chenchen could do from the beginning.
He is not sad about farewell and can face it with strength. Grandpa has good intentions and Chenchen lives up to his expectations.
So this ending is not deliberately sensational as some people say, this ending is the result that grandpa wanted from the beginning.
Heaven's reply, the beautiful longing and the longing for grandpa will remain in Chenchen's heart forever.
In the process of a person's growth, in his childhood stage, there is a person who can love but not dote on him, who can accompany him to understand society, life, nature, and small animals, play with him, teach himself skills, and maintain the child's normal behavior.
It is a rare and happy thing to have elders with childlike innocence and playful nature.
So, if you are a grandparent, this is a movie worth taking your children to watch.
If you are a parent, this is also a movie worth watching with your children.
If you have grandparents, this is also a movie you should watch!"
